Adoption as an alternative of abortion
Finding yourself pregnant may crate two very different emotions: if it was planed having a baby creates a feeling of full joy. It could be one of the most amazing feelings a human will ever have. If the pregnancy was not planned you may be frightened for you and your baby´s future. This kind of frustration may lead to decision that will affect you for the rest of your life.
If you are unmarried and find yourself pregnant you are going to have to face one of the most important decisions of your life. Fortunately they are many options available.
The first option is abortion; you may think is the easier and quicker solution to get rid of you “problem” , but this solution may have a lot of repercussions. Abortion may cause you serious permanent damages in psychological and psychological ways. Abortion may create a feeling of regret that will never fade away and will change the way you interact with others. This guilt may drive you insane. The effects on your physical health may be really serious especially if the abortion was executed in a hospital where the equipment is of poor quality. These effects may cause your death.
The second option is giving your baby for adoption. This method permits to save the baby´s life and to give a woman the possibility of conceiving a child the happiness of motherhood. In this era we have many adoption options, one of the most popular option in all the world is the adoption where woman can watch the child grow up by receiving pictures and visits with the baby, this type of adoption is call “open adoption”, this type permits the woman to make sure that their baby is in good hands and her sacrifice was worth it.
The table aged shows the difference between adoption and abortion.
| adoption | Abortion |
| Your pregnancy ends with life | Ends with death |
| You can feel good and positive about the choice | You may feel guilt and shame about your choice |
| You will remember giving birth | You will remember taking a life |
| You will have plenty of time to plan you and your baby´s future. | Abortion is final ; you can´t go back on your decision. |
| You can hold, name, and love your baby. | You will never know or treasure you baby |
| You can have continued contact with your bay. | You will miss the opportunity to see your child develop |
With this table people with this situation may compare and made a wise decision base on their values and needs. People around you may interfere on your decision, many people may think “A really caring mother would never give up her child and you don´t deserve to be a mother if you choose adoption.” - (Americanadoptions.com) but many people do not understand that women that use this alternative are acting unselfishly. They are placing their baby´s needs before their own needs. This decision is a really difficult sacrifice.
Adoption agencies may help women to deal with this hard and painful process.” A private agency founded on the belief that lives of children can be bettered through adoption, provides safe adoption services to children, birth parents and adoptive families by educating , supporting and coordinating necessary services for adoption throughout the united states” – (americanadoptions.com) this agency not only gives legal advice nut they also help with the dealing of regret.
Adoption may be a solution at any age. “Teen pregnancy is one of the most difficult experiences a young person might ever face when it interrupts school to other plans. It can create an emotional crisis resulting in feelings of shame and fear, and it may appear that you will crumble under pressures in your environments”. - (teenpregnancy.com). Even though teenagers have these feelings, they have to be analyzed well before making this decision. Deciding based only on an impulse is foolish because the decision may change the rest of your life. It is important to carefully check all the options possible and try to give you the opportunity to make the best informed decision possible.
Bibliography:
www.teenpregnancy.com
www.americanadoptions.com
Stephie Avila Perez
Birth control project
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Post author: Stephanie Avila
Be pregnant not always is a good new, there are many girls that became pregnant and they do not want their children. So for that reason in our world exist a big random of abortion.
Abortion involves killing the undeveloped embryo or fetus. For this reason, it is a very controversial subject.
The ones who abort are not only killing their baby they also are putting their lives in danger. So for that reason the adoption could be an option for do not put lives in danger and also without killing a life.
Adoption is a legal process that creates a new, permanent parent-child relationship where one didn't exist before. This process is better for the child and even better for the mother if they doesn’t wants their kid.
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Stephanie Ávila.
I think abortion is an easy way to finish with a "problem" in which you're involved. You can not talk about fault, because the only person who has it is you and not anyone else. If we talk about adoption it may be a viable way to end up with the baby's problem in case you do not want him/her. Adoption may be a solution at any age. Teen pregnancy is one of the most difficult experiences a young person might ever face when it interrupts school and other plans. It can create an emotional crisis resulting in feelings of shame and fear. I think adoption is a good choice instead of taking a child´s life and it also could be a good reason to give to your baby a good way of living. The table above this comment is very useful; we can see the difference between abortion and giving our baby in adoption and all the great things we should not regret about.
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Abortion may be a controversial subject, but i think that it should be legal. If abortion bacames legal, it would be the parents', or the mother's, decision if they want to have that baby.
ReplyDeleteFor me adoption is equal to living in a lie for your entire life, and we should think about that too, because sooner or later the adopted kid will have to know the truth.
The impact of knowing that kind of stuff, can make a lot of psychological damage to the kid, he will think that everybody around him betray him and that he doesn't means nothing to anybody, since his biological parents gave him in adoption.
This damage can develop into a depression and later may be a suicide, and none a single person deserves such a tragical way to end his life.
Adoption has always be seen as a good alternative for unwanted childs. The intentions of orphans maybe good, bur reality is another thing. Most of the childs and babys in one of this ¨houses¨suffer of some kind of abuses.
ReplyDeleteThe new option has been choose a family to give your baby. This option ends with the terrible idea and the posibility of abuses in babys, but i can see two big problems.
1. A women who see his baby cannot just give it to other family and to the kid the idea of having 2 mothers couls be harmfull.
2.If you choose not to see again the baby it could always exist the probability that the new family sell it.
Alot of people see adoption as one of the best options, and the intention maybe good. Reality is much harder than that.
I think this specific topic is different in each person since it involves a personal point of view and each and everyone of us is different.
ReplyDeleteFor example I have to disagree with my partner Jose Angel who said that revealing the truth to an adopted kid is bad. When they make a study and when you select the person you are giving your child to, you will hopefully pick someone who seems like a nice person, someone who will know how to reveal this truth to the kid in a proper wway that won't hurt him, at the end of the day it was your choice with whom the child will be raised.
In the other hand, abortion. I completely disagree with abortion, other than a child with a disease or a product of raping there should be no other excuse to practice an abortion. The reason why I think you should abort when being raped is because the kid might bring hurtful memories from that painful moment.
If none of this requierments are present, then there should be no abortion. Even if the women pregnant is a teen ager then she should assume the responsability, it was her acts that got her here, she knows what happens when you don't use a contraceptive method, there is no excuse for that. You did it, your fault, you take care of it. Can't hang out with oyur friends? Can't continue studying? This wasn't what she expected? Well, I'm sorry you should've known.
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I think that the abortion is just a bad idea; a wrong option. You have to assume the impact of your actions. That's why I believe that the adoption is the best option for young women that can't take care of a baby. Sometimes they don't have money or the enough resources to raise a child. But a lot of marriages that can't have babies are searching for babies in adoption. They might give the child a good life, and in this days we have a lot of adoption options. Of course that give your baby to another family is hard but you have to think about the baby's future.
This is a very polemical topic, I mean, I can say that I am in favor of abortion but as I see it, at the end of it, it is the women’s choice, period.
ReplyDeleteIt is true that there are a lot of cases where teenagers or people where careless and irresponsible by not using preservatives etc, but ¿what about the ones who actually tried everything? If someone takes all the preventive measures possible to avoid getting pregnant, but still for simple statistic something fails and they get pregnant, ¿should they be considered as cowards or immature or irresponsible people? I really think we should not be close minded in this kind of cases, I mean yeah, there are people that have the baby despite anything and they are able to come through it. There are people who cannot; some people are not mentally prepared to take that kind of decision. Yeah you can give it in adoption but you also have to think that, not all the babies who are born get automatically a home or a pair of good people waiting for him/ her. A lot of them end up in foster houses and some of them stay there for years or until they turn 18.¿Why? Because like it or not, people who are searching to adopt want babies, it is very rare to see a couple adopting a kid who has grown a couple of years. Another factor is the economical factor; there are cases where you literally cannot sustain the baby or even yourself, so why condemn someone to live a life of misery and problems? Because let us face it, we do not exactly live in a country where everyone has the opportunity of having a job. If you force someone to have or do something they do not want, they will not treat the baby with love, they will see it as an imposition or an obstacle, and that will happen whether we like it or not, because yeah we can say it is wrong and that they should take care of it but we need to think in all of this factors before condemning an abortion. If someone wants to give it in adoption it completely acceptable, but really we need to be more open minded and most important of all more mature, because if we debate on whether we are killing a life, the fetus etc; we could even come to the point of saying (even though it may sound weird) that it is wrong for men to masturbate because you are killing billions of sperms that are alive. ¿Why aren’t the sperms considered as a life until they get inside the egg? Still, I do think the decision should be in the pregnant person alone and no one else, we have the liberty of deciding on our own body, and no one can force us to do something we do not want, whether some people like it or not.